RSVP Response Card Wording

Wedding invitations are the glamorous show-stoppers of a suite, but your response cards are not to be overlooked! RSVP cards serve a very important (and obvious) purpose: to let you know whether or not your invited guests plan to attend. But you may also opt to collect a number of other details on your RSVP card, like a dinner choice for each guest, or whether or not they plan to attend additional wedding events surrounding the big day (i.e. rehearsal dinner, welcome dinner, send-off brunch, etc.). The options are truly endless!

First thing’s first: RSVP card with reply envelope vs. RSVP postcard

A card with a pre-addressed and stamped reply envelope is the most formal option, but many brides are opting for RSVP postcards these days, which have the address pre-printed on the back, and all you have to do is add a postcard-rate stamp (a bit less expensive than a standard first-class stamp). We are starting to see a few more brides opt to collect RSVPs online as well, in which case, we can create an RSVP-prompt card, asking guests to respond via one of the means given, including your wedding website (though you may want to consider including a phone number as well for older relatives to check in, just in case).

Please provide the favor of a response by…

The next thing to consider is when you would like to have all of your RSVPs back in. Know that for whatever reason, you likely won’t hear back from everyone, so we typically recommend requesting RSVPs to be returned about 3 weeks before your wedding. This will give you an extra week to follow up on any out-standing invitations, and still give you a final head count to relay to your venue or caterer 2 weeks out.

What’s the big ‘M’ for?

Traditionally, RSVP cards include a line for the guests’ names, starting with an M printed on the card. The M is, by default, the first letter of the title of your guest, which they will fill in, like Mrs., Ms., Miss, Mr., or Mr. & Mrs. John Sample. Some brides opt to simply use “Name” in place of the M since some younger invitees might not know what the M is for, or if the wedding is less formal.


The way we word this section is really just a matter of preference. Below, we've listed some common verbiage for establishing an affirmative or negative response.


On to the fun stuff

Aside from the guests’ names, an acceptance or decline, and the total number of guests in their party, let us know if you would like to collect any other information from your guests. We have designed nearly everything you can ask: a fill-in-the-blank “mad libs” style response where the guest writes their own story, “we promise to dance if you play this song” requests, menu options for each guest attending, number of guests planning to use transportation options offered from hotels to the ceremony or from the ceremony to the reception, even T-shirt size for welcome bag favors.

Finally, there are ways we can delicately word a response card if you would like to request only adult guests attend or you would like to limit the number of guests invited per invitation altogether. Let us know how we can best be of service!